This article contains excerpts from Possibilities Magazine, Vol. 1, No. 1. Click here to download Complete Magazine.
Home! What a beautiful word. A very important word indeed.
Home: the birthplace of life, the foundation of every society, a characteristic of even the most primitive ideas of man’s existence.
Home: the place we all return to everyday after all our toiling and struggle under the sun.
Home: the place we all hope to find joy, peace, contentment, laughter, and love.
Home: the one place where you are ALWAYS welcome.
However, our dreams about the place we call home are not always the reality we get to experience. Some people dream of quiet tranquil homes and come back to strife-filled homes. Some other people dream of a home full of joy and laughter, but each time they look around them, they see only sadness. There are many things that can cause such situations; but most of the time, the reason many people find that their homes are not as pleasant as it should be is because the people in that home are not taking up to their responsibilities as they ought to.
Every home is made up of a family. A family can be likened to a body. A body is made up of different parts with different functions, e.g. eyes, nose, legs, ears, hands, mouth, stomach, etc. The whole body is happy as long as everybody does their job: the legs walking well, the hands moving, the eyes seeing, and so on. But whenever any part of the body decides that it is no longer interested in doing what is expected of it, definitely, the whole body will suffer.
In the same vein, most families would be home-sweet-homes indeed, if every member locates and lives up to their areas of responsibility. And God is not an author of confusion. When He created families, He gave every member their responsibility – just as He did when He created the body. And just as the parts of the body seem to automatically know what they are meant to do, without being told, members of families also ought to know their duties!
However, for the avoidance of doubt, let us look at some of the duties and responsibilities of individuals in a home. We will start from the head.
- Husbands/ Fathers: The husband/father of the house is the God ordained head of the house (Ephesians 5: 23). His position is compared to Christ’s position as head and saviour of the Church. As the head, he has an overall responsibility to whatever happens in the home. He is the saviour of the family. It is his duty to save them from hunger, nakedness and the elements (1Timothy 5:8). He is accountable and responsible for the happenings in and to the family whether good or bad; it is therefore his duty to make decisions and take actions towards the overall good of the family (1Timothy 3:5). He is expected to do all within his power to make his family members as happy and comfortable as can be.
- Wives/ Mothers: If the man is the head, then the woman is the torso. She contains all the sensitive aspects of the home, and out of her proceeds the other parts of the family, namely, the children. The woman is the heart, the emotion of the home. She determines the atmosphere, the aura of the home environment (Proverbs 12: 4). If she is full of virtue, laughter, singing, merriment and hospitality, it will reflect in the home (Proverbs 15: 13); if on the other hand, she is saucy, moody and always seeking quarrels, it will also reflect in the overall atmosphere of the home (Proverbs 21: 9 & 19, Proverbs 27: 15). It is the duty of the mother to make good use of whatever the father brings home, and whatever she herself can bring, to make the home as welcoming as possible for the family members (Proverbs 14: 1). If she is neat, everyone will enjoy it. If she is comfortable in dirty surroundings, everyone will suffer it. If she is financially prudent, it is to everyone’s benefit, and vice versa. The man gets a house; she transforms it into Home-Sweet-Home. He brings home the kill; she turns it into a meal. He brings money; she uses it to get what they need. On the whole, the woman’s responsibility is to take whatever comes to the family and turn it into beauty. She receives seed, and brings forth harvests, including children.
- Children: These are often the offspring of a marital union, the seal of God’s blessing on a family. They also have their responsibilities. Their number one responsibility is obedience (Ephesians 6: 1 and Colossians 3: 20). This makes it easier for the parents to care for and protect them. Children that refuse to obey often fall into all manner of problems bringing untold heartaches and hardships to their families. It is also the duties of children, as they grow older, to help their parents however they can. With time, they become the hands and legs of the family, doing most of whatever needs to be done, and going on errands for the elders. Obedient and hard-working children bring much joy to their family.
A blissful home is made up of members who do not shy away from their responsibility. As a member of a family, what do you know are your duties, and what steps are you taking to ensure that you play your part towards the overall joy of your family? An extended family is blissful when it is made up of many blissful nuclear families. A society’s condition is largely determined by the condition of the families that form it. An individual’s future is often traceable to the kind of family he/she grew up in. You can start now to do whatever you can to make this Nation a better place; you can start from your home.